Tuesday, January 14, 2014

To our Gang Leader

My sister, Ananya.

It is said that God sieves out the good people and beckons them, irrespective of age or any aspect. On January 8th, 2014, God freed her of all earthly ties.

Just under 40, she was suffering from Cancer, a disease whose very mention shakes us up. But not her. She was someone who could face every challenge head on, and had emerged victorious every time. When we came to know her cancer had metastasized, I was encouraging her not to be afraid, when she said, "I am not scared. You all are."

Indeed, we were the weak ones. We cried, worried, got tensed, feared the worst everytime she went through rounds of chemotherapy, radiation, medication and intense pain. If we would ask her how she felt, the answer would always be, "Recovering.".... knowing fully well that she was doing no such thing.

She was named Dihing after a river in Assam. And so much like her name, she lived a life on her own terms. Never afraid to break the rules, she was incredibly smart and intelligent. She was a great dancer, and had a flair for language. Do you think South Indian languages are difficult to learn for someone who was born and brought up in Calcutta? She not only picked Tamil up, she used to converse fluently with her Tamilian maid, run a business in South India, and went on to marry a Tamil guy.

All through our lives, she stood by her younger brothers and sisters - guiding us, sharing our deepest secrets and yet, leading from the front while playing pranks. She was the darling of everyone in the family, for beneath her "I-dont-care-a-bit" attitude, was a caring and loving girl.

She wrote her destiny herself until this dreadful disease got the better of her. While we are happy that she has been relieved of inhuman physical pain, her sudden disappearance from our lives have created a void that nothing can ever fill.

We love you, Dihing-Di.


ashok said...

That's so sad to hear Anu. She seems to be a strong personality. May God give all the dear ones strength to overcome the loss.

Ramakrishnan said...

Sorry to note your sisters demise from the dreaded disease. May her soul rest in peace and may God also give you all the courage and fortitude to weather this deep loss !

Red said...

R.I.P Dihing. We lost a dear friend last week too who was battling brain tumor since 08 he fought, emerged victorious before succumbing to it again. Much like your sis, we never saw him complain and he smiled all the way out.

Dr Roshan Radhakrishnan said...

I'mm truly sorry. My prayers for you and your family.

Canary said...

RIP Dihing..
Just with these few lines I can gather that your sister was truly one of a kind, a brave and beautiful person, who lived a loving and wonderful life...

Maniparna said...

Sorry to know about your irreparable loss:-(..May her soul rest in peace..

Maniparna said...

Sorry to know about your irreparable loss :-(..May her soul rest in peace..

Anita Sabat said...

Sorry to learn of your sister's unfortunate passing away. She had a zest for life. Guess God needs the special people for his company.

You have lost a friend for life & it must have been tough for you to write this. But your sis must be so proud of you & your love for her.
May God give you and your family enough strength in these tough times.

Corinne Rodrigues said...

My hearfelt condolences...I can't imagine how difficult things must be for your family. I admire your courage to share and carry on with your life as normal - she left a good example and it shows. Hugs...

Rainbow Hues said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. Much prayers your way.

Aditi said...

Hugs dear! Your sister will always live through your words and your memories. She comes across as such a strong character. My prayers with you and your family, and may her soul rest in peace.

Unknown said...

So sorry to hear your loss... I have lost so many my relatives to Cancer. Let someone bring a cure to this. She seems to be an awesome person. May God bless her soul.

Take care dear...

Obsessivemom said...

Sisters are so special.. closest friends.. I can so feel your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Vidya Sury said...

Hugs! I am so sorry for your loss. May Dihing's soul rest in peace. I am sure she is smiling as she watches over you.



Shilpa Garg said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Anupama! May Dihing's soul rest in peace! Hugs.

Unknown said...

Angel, thanks - I will share this.

Today, on her 40th Birthday - I spent the entire day visiting financial institutions with her death certificate.
Didi used to say "It shall pass" - I hope she is watching over us and free of all her pain.

Unknown said...

I never had interactions with Dihing di; however heard a lot of stories from Pupun and Rinki; now reading this bit by you i came to know more about her.

I always believe it is important that you stay alive amongst people even when you are gone- that is a true achievement- and needless to say, Dihing di would always be there in our memories for ages.

This blog by you and the people commenting on it proves just that.... she will always be with us.

Unknown said...

I personally have not met Dihing di; but have heard loads from Pupun. Now reading this i know her better.

One thing i believe is that it is important that we stay in people's lives even after we are gone- that is the ultimate achievement and life.

The fact that you wrote this blog; and so many of us are commenting here, reading it; proves one thing - that Dihing di is going to be there with us forever... she has gone no where- you just need to keep the memories as fresh as reality always. :)

Aan'sworld said...

You've put it so beautifully, Angel...Love you Dihing Di!

Moon said...

Beautiful name. As beautiful as the life she lived. She lives on in ur hearts forever. Very sorry for your loss. Hope you can be strong for the parents who must be shattered.

Moon said...

Beautiful name. As beautiful as the life she lived. She lives on in ur hearts forever. Very sorry for your loss. Hope you can be strong for the parents who must be shattered.

My Unfinished Life said...

what a lovely heart rending write up... time sometimes does not heal wounds and we miss our beloved ones every day for the rest of our lives, for when they go they take with them a piece of our heart and soul!!

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